Singleness: A Season of Action | Guest Blogger - Kristin Settles

I am so glad to feature Kristin as our guest blogger! We attended the University of South Carolina together and I had a chance to see her from time to time after that. I have always appreciated her kind and sweet spirit. I remember what it was like to be single and trust God with my life. It wasn't easy all the time, but God kept me and for that I am thankful. I know that He is keeping Kristin as well, so I'm so glad God brought her to my mind to feature her story here. I pray that you are encouraged by her words. Happy reading!

As a 30-year-old single woman, who’s still waiting until marriage, not dating, but desiring courtship, marriage and a family one day… several words or phrases come to mind. 
Clock is ticking
Getting older
What are you waiting on?
Your standards are too high
You need to put yourself out there

And the list goes on. Words and phrases I’m sure are familiar to many single women. Words and phrases that all seem to signify time and change. Like the word season.

a time characterized by a particular circumstance or feature; 
a suitable or natural time or occasion; 
an indefinite period of time.

Everything on earth has its own time and its own season.
— Ecclesiastes 3:1 (CEV)

Be it the time of the year, the weather, or our lives, everything has its time and its season. And only God determines how long or short those seasons are. 

In a season of singleness, it’s easy to get focused on just that, being single and waiting on the next step. When will it happen, where, who will it be, how will it happen. You’re the last single person among your friends. Friends and family ask if you’re dating and when are you getting married. 

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added to you.
— Matthew 6:33 (NKJV)
Delight yourself also in the Lord, and he shall give you the desires of your heart.
— Psalms 37:4 (NKJV)

These scriptures aren’t saying “if you do these things God will bring you a husband, because that’s your desire.” A lot of times we put scripture in the context that we want. 

No. These scriptures are saying to put God first in all things, above all things, and in every area of our lives. That in seeking him, in delighting in him, in spending time with him and getting to know him, his thoughts become our thoughts. His desires become our desires. He knows what we are in need of much better than we do! We have no need to worry or to try and figure anything out, or to try and make anything happen. We just have to trust God and his timing. 

In this season, I’m learning that God wants me to first, have complete and total focus on him and second, to get to work! To go deeper in my relationship with him. To do what he has called me to do. To act on the assignment he’s given me. Not worrying about what’s next. He’s got that covered! 

Because when that time does come, I won’t have the time I have now to totally devote to him. 

His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.
— 1 Corinthians 7:34-35 (NLT)

If we had our way, we’d be in that relationship already… totally distracted. Our focus shifted, from God to that relationship. Because we didn’t take the time to develop that relationship with God first before trying to ‘keep God first’ in a relationship we weren’t ready for. Let God prepare you for the appointed time.

Until then, take full advantage of this unique time he has given you! Make the most of this single season. Spend time with God. Learn how to study the bible and find creative ways to have quiet time. Be obedient to your assignment. Travel. Get to know yourself before trying to get to know someone else. Learn how to be comfortable and secure by yourself. Learn how to take care of yourself, how to cook for yourself. Take yourself out. Discover your interests, your hobbies, likes and dislikes, and so much more! 

This isn’t a season of idleness. It isn’t a time of sitting around and waiting for life to happen. It isn’t a time of just waiting for marriage. You don’t even know when that time will come! Only God does.

So, break that clock. Thank God for every birthday. Never settle. Keep your standards high and trust God and his timing. God has a purpose and a plan for you. Find out what he wants you to do, go for it and live life!

Kristin is a South Carolina native, blogger, and lover of all things creative! She enjoys photography and works full-time as an Occupational Therapist. You can find Kristen's blog & shop, Time In Our Hands, here! Follow Time In Our Hands on Instagram and Facebook!

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