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You being here means so much! Thanks for taking the time to visit. I’m God’s girl and Tyson’s wife! Together we have 2 beautiful children, Elijah and Olivia. Fun fact: the way people love coffee, I love sweet tea! I am always perfecting my black tea to cane sugar ratio at Starbucks! :)

 

The mission

The Lightingale prayerfully seeks to show wives that when they allow God to rule in their hearts, He will use them to shift the atmosphere in their homes, blessing their husbands and creating a thriving, safe and loving home for her family to dwell.
 

The beginning

I wasted the early years of my marriage not respecting my husband. Not praying for him. Constantly entertaining the idea of divorce. Blaming my parents for not staying together. Trying to escape my role and responsibilities as a godly wife. Doing everything I could to distract myself from being a God-fearing wife and a loving mother. I truthfully am ashamed at how I behaved and mourn the way I lived all while calling myself a child of God. I have seen first hand that it is all too easy to try to live independently of your family when you’ve become desensitized to wanting to do God’s Will. The enemy then comes in to deceive us into thinking that we are right and our husbands and families are burdens. A lie from the pit of hell.

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The standard

Wives, be subject to your husbands [out of respect for their position as protector, and their accountability to God], as is proper and fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives [with an affectionate, sympathetic, selfless love that always seeks the best for them] and do not be embittered or resentful toward them [because of the responsibilities of marriage].
— Colossians‬ ‭3:18-19‬ ‭AMP‬‬

I believe in Biblical womanhood. I believe that the Bible clearly defines the role of a husband and the role of a wife in the context of marriage. Husbands have a heavy weight and a responsibility from God as they lead us. But this blog isn’t about them, it’s about us. It’s about how we should conduct ourselves as wives who want to please God and live honorably according to His Word:

In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate, not as inferior, but out of respect for the responsibilities entrusted to husbands and their accountability to God, and so partnering with them] so that even if some do not obey the word [of God], they may be won over [to Christ] without discussion by the godly lives of their wives, when they see your modest and respectful behavior [together with your devotion and appreciation—love your husband, encourage him, and enjoy him as a blessing from God]. Your adornment must not be merely external—with interweaving and elaborate knotting of the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or [being superficially preoccupied with] dressing in expensive clothes; but let it be [the inner beauty of] the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, [one that is calm and self-controlled, not overanxious, but serene and spiritually mature] which is very precious in the sight of God.
— 1 Peter 3:1-4 AMP

This way of thinking is not popular today. What a woman is supposed to be is being redefined. What being a Christian wife should look like is being redefined, but God already established all of this in His Word. So, the world doesn’t get to tell us what is right and wrong. As persuasive as the culture is, the culture doesn’t have the final say — God does. We do what He says and show the world that there is better way of living. When everyone is operating in their roles, God gets the glory that that family will thrive from the inside out. As my husband always says: God’s way is better.

 

The purpose 

Here at The Lightingale, I want to help wives avoid some of the pitfalls I fell hard into. Together, we are going to really examine Biblical womanhood and what the Word says about our roles as wives to our husbands and mothers to our children.

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I can raise both hands and say that walking in a way that pleases God in all these areas is not easy. But as I have seen the difficulties that arise when I don’t do what God says, I can say for sure that when I started doing what God said and I started respecting my husband, God flipped things around and we began to prosper in our marriage. Which in turn makes the home environment our children in to be full of life and love.

Wife. You can do this. Not for our own glory but for God’s:

You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
— Matthew 5:14-16

Letting your light shine starts with the people you interact with everyday. Let the light of Christ you should shine “before others” start in your home with your husband and your children.

When we do this, our light won’t have a choice but to overflow into our friendships, in our communities, in our churches and in this world. Our small acts of obedience to God will make a big difference.

Thanks for coming along. Feel free to stay a while + drop me a line if you want!

All for God’s glory,

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